Agreeing to Disagree is our Next Step

Updated: May 19, 2020

At a time when so many of us are torn between feeling stuck and wanting to get back on the horse and "ride till we can't no more," the only way to get through the next phase of what lies ahead is to look ahead.

Sure, it's easy to get caught up in ruminating over what happened, what didn't happen and why we're upset about it. It's easy to get stuck in a negative thought process and create a frustrated, anxious mindset. It takes courage and mindfulness to stay focused on how you want things to unfold going forward. It takes positive intentions and purposefully putting your energy where you want it to be, rather than allowing yourself to be dragged down by anything that isn't for you.

I am profoundly aware of the divisiveness and separation this pandemic has caused - not only in our country, but in my family. When half of the country or family supports one perspective and the other half supports another, it may not cause arguments or fights, but it creates an air of disharmony where it wasn't before.


Our history as a nation proves that we have come through the controversy and discord over not seeing eye-to-eye time and time again. There was the 13th Amendment of 1865; women's suffrage in 1920; the Roe v. Wade ruling in 1973; and the legalization of same-sex marriage 2015. Many of us might only recall the latter. While it's true that a global pandemic falls into a different category than many of our nation's controversies, the division of our mindset as a whole does not. These events in history, among others, prove that we have the ability to move forward despite the fact that we may not agree about masks, or staying in versus going out. And although we may have completely different ideas of what family dinners are going to look like in the future we will find a way to work out everything that truly matters, we always do.

This is a time to stop putting your time and energy into what happened before today. It's time to free up your head space and your heart space and look forward, not back. It's time to untether yourself from regret, fear, drama, pain, anxiety, and the anger of not being right, or not feeling like "enough," based on what someone else has told you about your opinion.

Our success in repeating our history and emerging as "One nation under God," rather than "one ever-increasingly-divided-nation," lies solely in our ability to grow accustomed to agreeing to disagree.

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